Salt at Stanley Street with the a couple of friends and lots of jam jars.

I remember moving into this city a couple of years ago I thought I was just passing by. I completed my National Diploma in Human Resource management at the

NelsonMandela University in the year 2016 and I thought maybe I could stay a bit longer because the windy City was still a bit friendly to me.

Stanley Street is one of South Africa’s Newest blossoming food scene according to @traveller24 situated at the heart of Richmond Hill. This is one of the most vibrant streets in the friendly city following the most famous Parliament Street which runs through the city’s business development chambers.

A Saturday afternoon after a long day at work my friends @nangamso @viwe and I enjoyed a couple of the most soothing and cooling Jam Jars served by the friendly staff @salt. A great girl time session enjoyed either on the inside or outside of the restaurant with a cooling wind and awesome view is what a girl needs after a long week of sending and receiving emails from an unfriendly boss.

Stanley Street really puts Port Elizabeth on the map with its ever developing offerings every year there is a really cool restaurant popping up with its unique menu and great architectural structure and the coolest thing about these restaurants is that they cater for all types of citizens in the area from students to working professionals as well as families.

This definitely a place to consider when hosting friends from outside of town or just simply enjoying a night or day out with loved ones💓

@salt @stanleystreet @writers @bloggersloveshare @daringwoman @glamourmagazine @booslay @veehfixy #stanleystreet #bloggersloveshare #writters

IF YOURE ABOUT TO CLOSE THE CHAPTER OF YOUR 20S HERE IS A SWEET AND SHORT CHECKLIST TO TICK OFF TO MAKE SURE YOU LIVED THE BEST OUT OF YOUR MILLENIALS.

1🌻 TAKE A SOLO TRIP -☮️ This is something I have always wanted to do, to get on a bus with my backpack and jump off at any destination at 00:00 and find my way around. life changes after 30 and before you know it you’re faced with different life challenges that will prevent your free time to travel and hitchhike with strangers and drink local alcohol and enjoy their festivals. traveling by yourself forces you to get out of your comfort zone and also makes you learn more about your self. it will also give you valuable thinking time to discover your passion and desires in the following chapters of your life.☮️

2🌻GET RID OF BAD HABITS -👎it is important to let go of your bad habits before you turn 30 whether it is excessive drinking or smoking or even the poor sleeping cycle that you have acquired over the years. try to bring some good changes in your life by stepping into a more healthier way of living. bad habits are setbacks which get gets us nowhere in life but we don’t see that because they are often wrapped as comfortability and enjoyment. a bad habit can simply be in a form of a bad relationship whether it is the friends you keep or the type of people you date. get involved in things that will grow you as a person and as a professional. bad habits draw more strength from you and take up most of your quality time you could spend being a better you.

3🌻Start Saving -💴 I can’t stress out how important it is to have savings in your name. even if it is R100 a month every penny counts. you don’t know what the future has in store for you. take care of your bank account so that it can take care of you, in the long run, should you face any financial troubles. there’s is nothing worse than being over 30 and still having to depend on the family for financial support.

4🌻PAY ALL YOUR CREDIT CARD BILLS -💃 I am quite certain that you do not want to get into your 30s with the financial burden from your 20s. you’re starting a new era of your life and you owe it to yourself to begin it on a clean slate. debt is a downer and just another setback which is there to stress you out so it is important to make sure that you’re clear from it before you begin your new journey.

5🌻LIVE IN A DIFFERENT CITY EVEN IF ITS FOR A YEAR. – 🌏it is important to learn independence at a young age so that when you get older you know how to handle different situations with ease. this will teach you to value your own time and know your capabilities. it might sound like a great deal but is it definitely worth it. take a job in a different town or pursue a course or just simply take a gap year to indulge and find yourself.

6🌻 DEVELOP YOUR TASTE IN ALCOHOL – 🍷take your time and discover which alcohol really works for you from wine to whiskey it is important to know what works for you. you have had enough beers and ciders throughout your 20s its time you picked from sauvignon blanc or Shiraz.

7🌻 LEARN TO COOK A PROPER MEAL-🥘 Once you turn 30 you’re going to start hosting people whether it is your colleagues or distinguished guest at your space and you want to impress and serve the best meal. you can not rely on restaurants and take out outlets after you hit your 30s. you might have not thought of this before but knowing how to cook will help you in your future so go ahead and surprise your friends and family with a special four-course meal.

8🌻GET INKED OR PIECED – 🕸️Yep I am serious and I  know you might have been postponing this for a while now but the time is now. express yourself however you have always wanted before you turn 30. you might find that you have been sleeping on the real you but it is never too late to live your life the way it was designed for you.

9🌻LEARN THE VALUE OF PHYSICAL INTIMACY- 💓The times for casual sex is over now. it is time to understand the dynamics you share with your partner. sex is no longer a matter of simple desire it is time to value the value the purity and physical intimacy.

10🌻DATE SOMEONE WHO IS NOT YOUR TYPE – 👩‍❤️‍👩Dating someone who is not your type will add a spark into your 20s chapter. it might not work out in the end but it will definitely teach you which kind of person you wish to be with in the future.


💓 If you haven’t started yet to tick the boxes your time is now.                             
                                                        

#veehfixy @daringwoman @glamourmagazine #millenials @writters @bloggersloveshare #bloggersloveshare #blogger #influencerRT #bloggerstribe

forget society, get your life!!!

So yesterday i had a very interesting conversation with two male acquaintances and a friend of mine. At first i felt offended and attacked but then i became fully aware that it was just another typical conversation i would have with members of society even though the conversation was about me i realized that society is a curious system and there’s no running away from that peculiarity even if you wanted to . The conversation was basically focused on me and how i couldn’t afford other “important things’ in my my life but s till manage to have my hair, nails and outfits on point almost every time.

If i tell you i am broke i am not lying. my brokeness is categorized, i might be “i cant loan you that certain amount of money” broke but that does not mean i am “i cant afford to take myself out for lunch” broke. one of the guys said to me ” you cant tell me you are broke when you’re wearing your hair like that and that face flawless like that “(i had a Brazilian lace frontal wig). i wondered if i am supposed to be out there looking like a despairing disorder about to explode and invite value-less pity over my life simply because i cant afford certain things. i have grown to learn that pity does not get you anywhere in life instead it just increases the number of people who think they know you based on what they see on the outside.

Society prefers you looking dusty and pale. This gives them something to talk about. they begin to feel sorry for you and somehow forget about their own misery suddenly they feel its better to deal with your issues instead of confronting their own.

Here are my two cent tips:

🌻Pick your struggles wisely.

🌻Choose youre listners discreetly.

🌻Avoid people who make you feel less of a human because they they think they are existing better than you.

🌻leave people who are unworthy of your time out of your personal space.

🌻Don’t explain yourself if its unnecessary.

🌻Don’t take every things too deep, be easy on yourself.

🌻Work on your self-esteem, believe in your capabilities, love who you are, have a vision about your life and constantly work on that dream.

🌻Trust your process no matter how slow it may seem.

🌻Pray about it or if not visualize your life over a glass of anything you enjoy.

🌻S.L.A.Y 💅💕

Imagine loosing years of happiness that you’re never going to get back simply because you cant live the life you desire. happiness is a choice, make it! forget what the next people would say about you. You need to let people talk because that’s what they are there for. There’s no growth in misery and there’s simply no getting better until you shift your mindset and start listening to that inner voice you’ve been avoiding so much.

🌻🌻🌻SIMPLY LIVE.

@vfikile @daringwoman @writters @booslay @vfikile @glamourmagazine @bloggerstribe #bloggersloveshare #paidbloggingjobs

I CAN RELATE TO A FEW BUT CAN CAN YOU?

_ The one where you are with your partner and missing the love of your life.

_ The one where you sitting amongst a group of successful friends and they are planning a trip overseas but you can only imagine what it feels like to have extra cash to travel.

_ The one where you want to exhale all your problems but theres nobody to vent to.

_ The one where you have so much love to give and no one to give it to so you end up living pieces of yourself on people who dont deserve you.

_ The one where you feel a deep connection with someone who doesnt see you past their lust for you.

_ The one where you are constantly misunderstood.

_ The one where you and all your friends lowkey dont like each other but y’all are loney and non of you will admit that you all perfectly fill each others voids.

_ The one where you are surrounded by people but dont have authentic and meaningful relationship with them.

_ The one where all your friends have kids and suddenly you can’t relate to them anymore.

_ The one where you are surrounded by people that you cant be fully be yourself with.

_ The one where you finally decide to have your first child and the minute you bring them to the world you regret the rest of your life because you never planned on raising them all by yourself.

*Pick one and let me know how you deal with it.

Thank you for being here.

I have read countless number of books trying to figure out the concept of love and how it works. People have different journeys when it comes to love, from why they actually fall inlove to who they fall inlove with and when they decide that they no longer want to be in love. We as individuals often don’t understand these journeys and we often judge people based on what we see from the outside. Our perception and understanding of the term love differs because of learnt behaviours from when we were young. Love is learnt from a young age, the people you grow around are the biggest influence in your life when it comes to the way you love or perceive love.

If you have been following my previous posts you would know that I come from a rather dysfunctional polygamous family where love is almost non existent but a system for raising children and living together as a family. Expressions of affection whether Physical or emotional are seen as bizarre or foreign. I grew up in a family set up where tenderness and satisfaction of the needs of the other was absent or rather shared behind closed doors. There is this thing with Zulu men that if they show compassion to their partners it is seen as a sign of weakness and is shameful to the community at large. There is no desire for shared activities between two partners which almost makes me wonder how they come to making so many children and still remain firm in freely showing no intermacey towards each other.

-Black woman have always been magic.

Actually

-Zulu black woman lead as magicians.

I may not have a very strong foundation of love but the more “woke” I become the more I understand what it means to love n be loved in return. I have put so many years into this whole self love and healthy relationship with self thing that it takes alot for me to give into anything that doesn’t feel right. People are so Brocken out there and they are not even aware of it 🤞 before you know you are coght up in something that that has absolutely nothing to do with your growth. Choosing to be healthier is difficult but we are still entitled to love and gentleness when in the process. People often call it selfishness and isolation but it is important to know that you’re not entitled to their understanding.

I have had a couple of friendship and relationships that meant alot to me end Simply because I have never been one to settle or compromise. Having principles and knowing your worth is important when you’re in a long term healing journey. I have never felt entitled to anybody’s love and this has helped to easily let go of people who comes to my life without good intentions.

Please don’t get me wrong I love love, I am an easy going individual, adaptive and fun to be around but that doesn’t mean I want to be reckless and put myself in situations where my principles would be questioned. I cringe at the thought of heartbreak and I immediately remind myself that even if it takes me a lifetime to find true love I will always be satisfied with myself, even though my worst fear is hitting the age of thirty without having to live the dream of going on long drives with the love of my life while playing Rick Rocks “Aston Martin music”track on full blast. I know that dreams delayed are not dreams denied.

Thank you for being here ❣️